Dying Matters Awareness Week

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Dying Matters Awareness Week

Dying Matters Awareness Week

As part of Dying Matters Awareness week, we asked members of St. Margaret's staff to consider what they may like to say in their 'Emotional Will' - a document that would detail thoughts, messages and requests they would like to leave their loved ones, rather than objects. St. Margaret's Lead Lymphoedema Nurse Specialist, Ali Batchelor, told us what she would like to say: 

Is there a special memory you would like to remind someone of?

Yes, I’d like my family to remember our outings to the Beautiful Days Festival which we go to every year.

Is there something you have learnt during your lifetime that you would like to pass on?

Take every opportunity, don’t have any regrets and just be kind to people.

Do you have a favourite film, book or song (or all 3) that you would like to tell a loved one about so that they can think of you when they watch/read/listen to it?

My favourite film is Doctor Zhivago and my favourite book is Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier. I love R.E.M. - I remember taking my children to France when they were quite small and I played it constantly and now they groan whenever they hear them! 

Is there anything you’ve wanted to tell someone but have been too shy/afraid/embarrassed?


Is there anything you would like to say sorry for?

Probably hundreds of things! Everybody upsets people unintentionally along the way without meaning to.

Is there anything you were given by your parents or grandparents (such as a recipe) that you would like to pass on to someone?

My mother gave me a cookbook which I’d like to give to my children – they all cook so they’ll have to share it!

Is there anyone you would particularly like to acknowledge for their influence on your life?

Probably my grandmother because she looked after me a lot when I was child - my parents were farmers and busy, so she was a strong influence in my life.

Would you like to tell anyone anything about yourself that you think they don’t know?

No, I think I’m a fairly open book!

What has helped you get through the hard times in your life?

Some brilliant friends, and most of my family! Friends particularly.

Is there anything you would like to request someone to do?

Take opportunities, live your life to the full and think about others but without sacrificing yourself to others totally. I don’t want my children to look after me in old age, I just want them to put me in an expensive nursing home and take me out for Pimms and gin occasionally! 

What would you like to let your loved ones know you wish for their futures?

I want them to be true to themselves, to be happy, healthy, and stay close to each other. And remember me with a laugh and a gin! I’m sure they’ll be laughing their heads off!


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